Momservation: If your kids aren’t mad at you or hate you at some point, then you’re not doing your job as a parent.

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After recently bringing a puppy into our lives, I’ve come to realize there’s not a lot of difference between raising kids and dogs.

(Cat’s don’t count because they just want you to leave them the hell alone – which I guess would mean there’s not a lot of difference between raising teenagers and cats, but I’m not quite there yet.)

When your kids are little it is so important to teach them what the rules are, what’s expected of them and what won’t fly. Then you have to reinforce the behavior you’re looking for with repetition, consistency and praise.

And treats are key.

Sounds about the same as training a dog, right?

I like to think I’ve got good, obedient kids. I take great pride in knowing we made it through the early years without one of them being known as “The Biter” or being blacklisted from any parks. So applying the same obedience strategy, I’m working hard to make sure our puppy, Darby, doesn’t ruin my streak. Here are my basic rules:

Ten Rules for Obedient Kids and Dogs

1. Nobody likes a biter. Zero tolerance policy on aggression. Nip it (HA!) in the bud with severe consequences that don’t include more violence.
2. Play nicely with others. If you can’t play nice, then it’s time to go home or have some time alone. If you want to have a friend, be a friend.
3. Do what you’re told the first time. You undermine your authority if you allow anything else.
4. Manners count. Being on your best behavior at all times will earn you affection and respect.
5. Don’t beg. It’s a nuisance and it should never be given in to.
6. Good behavior = Reward. Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool. Love, affection and praise are basic cravings. And who can resist a good treat?
7. Share with friends. Selfishness should be discouraged because it can lead to other antisocial behaviors.
8. Everything has its place. Have designated areas for eating, sleeping, going potty, keeping toys, playing, etc. Consistency with these boundaries creates security.
9. Make good choices. Make it clear what your expectations are and reward for resisting temptation. Soon they’ll be able to do it on their own.
10. Set a good example. Keeping your temper and frustrations in check will teach appropriate response and behavior and keep anxiety levels down.

Momservation: “You need a license to buy a dog, or drive a car, hell you can get a license to catch a fish, but they’ll let any butt-reaming a**hole be a father.” Keanu Reeves, “Parenthood”
 

  
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I work best from a manual. I like to have step-by-step instructions on what to do and what should happen next. I also like the security of knowing if I forget something or it doesn’t pan out right I can just go back to the book.

For example, I was all over those What to Expect When You’re Expecting, The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy and What to Expect The First Year books with my first baby. I ate those books up like Jared eats Subway.

If the book told me to keep an eating and potty journal I did. If it instructed how to best get an infant to sleep through the night, I followed it to the letter with unwavering consistency. When it showed a chart graphing how babies gradually cry less and less the older they get, I wrote on my calendar the date when there would be more laughing than crying in my house (Mommy included).

Go ahead and roll your eyes, but I’ll have you know both my children walked well before a year, spoke complete sentences at 18 months, were completely potty trained by 20 months, and learned how to ride bikes when they were three.

Call it Type-A personality, good genes, or baby boot camp (that would be Hubby), but I’ll tell you it was a good instruction manual. In my effort to be a good parent I’m not ashamed to seek out advice, help, or use a book that has the word “For Dummies” blazed on the cover.

Now there are some people (read Hubby here) who like to wing it. Whether it be assembling a 50-part game table at midnight on Christmas Eve or throwing together beef stew sans recipe, some people flat out don’t like someone telling them their business.

Unfortunately, opposites attract and those of us who do like instructions are usually stuck with people who keep us up until three in the morning reassembling game tables and eating beef stew that tastes like chicken.

So imagine my surprise when prior to bringing home our new puppy Hubby brings home the book Puppies for Dummies. And it wasn’t for me – it was for him!

Knock me over with a feather, he actually read the book too! This from a man who won’t read anything unless it’s in a bathroom and he’s got some time to kill. But it was great to see him finally subscribing to my theory that life just seems easier when it comes with instructions.

Obviously, the book is great – as I knew it would be. When nine week-old Darby started getting nippy with the kids we turned to the book and learned she was overtired and over-stimulated. When Darby started stealing socks the book taught us a technique to squelch the behavior. We have turned to the book for issues with clothing assault, object envy and crate training and we continue to have success with raising a well-mannered puppy.

Oh, and I’m claiming fully potty-trained by 10 weeks.

Don’t think I can do it?

Did I mention both my kids at ages four and five were riding their bikes 12 miles a week next to me while I went jogging? Okay, that might just be good athletic genetics, but check Parenting for Dummies – I bet it’s in there under How to get Your Kids to Go Right to Bed.

Momservation: They say the true pain of childbirth fades otherwise mothers wouldn’t have more children. Obviously we also forget the pain of infancy and toddler years or else we wouldn’t ever get puppies either.

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 Darby Diamond Sky Wheeler, 
                                                           8 wks, 12lbs, 20 in. 
                                                                          Momma and fuzzy baby are doing well.

Right now I am dashing off this blog while the baby is sleeping. I only have a limited amount of time to try and accomplish anything because once she wakes up the baby demands my full attention.

There’s the feeding. Then making sure she’s gone potty. Some playtime for stimulation. Close supervision so she doesn’t hurt herself or break something. Realizing there’re more things I need to do to baby-proof the house. Hopefully after a few hours of that she’ll be ready for her nap and I’ll be able to sneak in a shower.

New baby? No, new puppy. But really, it’s the same.

Oh, how quickly we forget the tied down, all consuming, rigorous schedule of babies, toddlers and puppies once we have left those years safely in our rear view.

I have always said the newborn years weren’t my best genre. I still occasionally suffer some Post Traumatic Stress when I smell Desitin.

The toddler years I did better, because they’re much more interactive and receptive to bribery.

The pre-kindergarten years I was like a relay runner sprinting to the next leg, giving it all I had because I knew I was almost done and I could pass the baton to California educational system.

And the school years have been my favorite yet. I still celebrate every year’s Back to School day doing absolutely nothing unless it involves chocolate.

So why on earth would someone, who was so desperate to not go through all of that again that she had her Hubby get a vasectomy on Father’s Day weekend because it was the first date available, get a puppy?

Because puppies are the Clif Note version of early childhood. All the joys of adding another family member but with a quicker learning curve and they don’t talk back.

Before I know it Little Miss Darby won’t need to get up in the middle of the night. She’s well on her way to being potty trained. She already will eat whatever I put in front of her. I don’t need a babysitter when I leave her, just some good crate training. And after I play with her for a little bit, she just sits at my feet and lets me work. At nine weeks old.

My non-fuzzy kids are eight and ten years old. I still haven’t gotten them to do that.

Momservation: If time is a thief then Facebook, Twitter and YouTube are its accomplices.

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The stocking are STILL hung by the chimney with care...

Where does the time go? (If you are my husband please don’t answer that. I already know I have a Bejeweled problem.)

Is it really time to pick up the kids already? But I can’t! I still have to pick up the dry cleaning, stop by the store, change the laundry, figure out what’s for dinner and update my status on Facebook…

You realize I wish that last one was a joke.

Seriously, we moms know there is not enough time in the day to get everything done. And especially if you’re working full-time, there’s not enough time in this life.

So with all the things that need to get done and always being pressed for time, someone please tell me why the heck am I still stopping to update my status on Facebook and tweet the answer to the world’s problems?

In fact, I don’t even know why I’m writing this blog since it’s not the writing I do that makes me any money! And as my house continues to close in around me in heaps of countertop piles and closets threatening to burst forth and swallow my family whole, any writing right now deserves writer’s block.

Which leads me to:

Things I Should Be Doing Instead of Writing This Blog

• Taking down and putting away my Christmas decorations that have started mocking my improved organization resolution.
• Buying groceries so my kids don’t have to pick fuzzy green spots off their cheese and bread before making their lunches.
• Starting laundry before everyone in the house has to go commando.
• Sweeping the kitchen floor because my floor is starting to look more stocked than my fridge with food.
• Mopping the floors before it’s mistaken for a Twister mat.
• Paying the bills that still haven’t disappeared after pretending I didn’t see them.
• Cleaning the bathrooms because shutting the door forever just isn’t an option.
• Vacuuming the house before the dust bunnies and mites join forces and take over.
• Figuring out what’s for dinner so we don’t have to have left over left-overs.
• Putting away everything left on the counters because everyone’s pockets, backpacks, bedrooms, closets, and drawers may actually be totally empty now.
• Empty the dishwasher so I can load the dishes in the sink because we ran out of paper plates and plastic forks.
• Pick up toys, shoes, clothes, blankets and pillows I’m tired of tripping over while waiting for a child to actually do what they were supposed to do.

Of course, I could keep going but I’m only overwhelming and disgusting myself more and I just got a message on Facebook I really should answer…

Momservation: Love Christmas. Love the end of Christmas break even more and want to marry it.

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There’s nothing like seeing your kids heading into the halls of knowledge in search of expanded education.

Who am I kidding? My tires were screeching from the curb as I practically threw the kids out the car, eager for my freedom and to let silence reign in my home again.

I love my babies, but I’ve always been a big believer in separation makes the heart grow fonder. We definitely need a build up of love around here – especially between brother and sister. We began the day with sister getting her fingers smashed in a door by brother because they were fighting over who got to use the bathroom first. Forget that we have two bathrooms – THAT would be too easy a solution.

I then end up screaming at my son, and there we were, right back in the normal morning routine as if two weeks of peace and love in the spirit of the holiday season never happened.

Are we sure we’ve rolled over to 2010 here because I’m having a little déjà vu of 2009?

If it’s true those who don’t learn from history are doomed to repeat it, I better go back and take a peek at the last year’s blog topics so I make the most of my do-over for Mother of the Year (although I might have already blown it this morning thanks to a few choice words yelled at high decibels).

Take a peek with me and see if we can learn from my mistakes and all save ourselves the hurt and pain of another rejection letter from the MOTY nominating committee…

In January we kicked the year off with…

Family Ear Wax Night – Some families have Game Night. Some families have Movie Night. Our family looks in each other’s ears for the biggest field of ear wax potatoes. It was a low point in our family history, but highly entertaining. Also explains why no one listens in this house…

The Flu Virus Smackdown – After the family battles a nasty flu bug before there was a hysteria over swines with runny noses, I swear to get flu shots next time. Got the 1^st round of H1N1 shots for the kids this last fall, but they ran out of the required booster. Still flying unprotected but feeling lucky this January…

In February it was already getting rocky with…

Careful What You Wish For – A week off for “Ski Week” gives the kids their wish for no school only to lay around moaning they’re bored with constant bickering. Fell out of the running for Mother of the Year early when I snapped, going into a screaming monologue ending with, “Mommies don’t get vacations!”

What Would the Donner Party Do? – How did the Donner Party survive without a DVD player in their covered wagon? Reflections upon all the things I thought I’d do right when I had kids vs. the reality of lowering your standards.

In March things went south with…

Name That Putrid Smell – I have never been so disgusted to find exactly what I’ve been looking for. The source of which made the family SUV smell like a rolling stinky cheese factory and made me forever ban milk in our to-go Happy Meals in favor of sodas and adding to the childhood obesity problem.

Grease is Still the Word (Though Slightly Censored) – Didn’t realize I belonged in the Fuddy-Duddy Club with my dad until it was my turn to relive the original “High School Musical” movie, “Grease,” with my own kids. Who knew my first musical love was so nasty? Apparently Dad…

In April things continued to get sticky…

Will Work for Candy – An ode to Easter candy and why Mommy’s gaining calories instead of losing them when she cleans the house.

A No Good Very Bad Mommy – But the PMS made me do it! A low point in my mommy career when I just couldn’t stop myself from saying something stupid.

In May things start looking up…

I Won Mother of the Year!! – Implausible but true if you believe what you see. Great Mother’s Day accolades as funny viral video fools my kids into thinking the world now knows what they know – Mom’s the best.

Hair Today Gone Tomorrow – After patiently waiting for 18 month, my son finally voluntarily cuts his shaggy-dog hair. Which was good because pretty soon protecting self-image and self-esteem was not going to trump looking like an idiot.

In June things take a turn for the worse…

This is Not a Drill – My daughter becomes the winner of the first broken appendage and cast in the family just in time for summer vacation. We’re just glad her brother had nothing to do with it.

Goodbye Fuzzy Baby – The first born of our family, our 14 year-old yellow Lab, Kyber, is gone and 100 dog years seems too soon to say goodbye. My mother’s heart is broken.

In July we bounce back with…

The Dangers of Running, Jumping and Pivoting – Forget doctor’s orders, nothing can stop the resiliency of children. Especially an eight year old girl with a cast determined to keep living an action packed summer.

Bear Smorgasbord and a 250 Pound Racoon – What’s more fun than camping, leaving your garbage out and avoiding the truth? How about a bear feet from your tent and a ten year old son who thinks he just saw the world’s largest raccoon…

In August things got hectic…

Operation Haven’t-Aged-a-Day – It takes some simple words from an eight year old to put in perspective what really matters in the face of a 20-year high school reunion.

I Survived Summer Vacation – An action-packed summer is worthy of a commemorative T-shirt or at the very least gain some traction for a Mother of the Year nomination.

In September we’re trying to hang in there…

Mom’s Top Ten Rules for Kids – Time for some ground rules and to quit repeating myself (at high decibels).

(Not So) Proud Parenting Moment – You can do your best to raise good kids and yet you can still go so wrong. Like having a son who thinks his sister is going to wind up “a lonely old lady who talks to her cats” if she doesn’t get married…

In October some time for reflecting…

God Bless America and Other Expletives – You are not truly a mother until you utter tried and true phrases you used to hate – including “I don’t care who started it” and “Do I look like a waitress to you?”

Striving to be My Best Possible Self – Taking a 2-day break from being Mom to join 25,000 women at The Women’s Conference is a good reminder the world may be much larger than me but I am worthy of leaving my mark.

In November we’re barely hanging on…

Parenting Disney Style – After a trip to Disney World it becomes evident these are the people we need in charge. Taking a page from their playbook might just be the way to make our own homes the happiest place on earth.

Diary of a CEO (Chief of Everything Officer) – Flashing back to the chronicles of just one hectic day as the mother of a three and five year old proves that we moms need a raise.

And in December we’re just happy to have survived another year of parenthood with another shot at Mother of the Year 2010…

Holiday Momservations™ - If I have learned nothing as a mother it is that clothes for Christmas is right up there with lima beans for dinner and if you have a toddler, go ahead and throw your heirloom glass ornaments on the ground right now to get it over with.

A Holiday Hit and Run – Did Someone

See That Christmas That Hit Me? – The miracle of Christmas might just be that we survive it. A list of reasons I was too busy to write this blog.

Momservation: The miracle of Christmas might just be that we survive it.

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I WAS TOO BUSY TO WRITE THIS BLOG BECAUSE:

… I was putting away my Halloween decorations so I could put out my Christmas decorations.

… I was making my husband and kids stand by every potential perfect Christmas tree in the lot, then spent another half hour making them spin the trees for final inspection and selection.

… I was procrastinating putting the lights on the Christmas tree and instead went outside to nag my husband about putting all the exterior lights on properly.

… I had to clean my house before I could put decorations out although I did consider passing off dust bunnies as garland and disguising my laundry piles as the three wise men.

… I needed to get 10 tubs of Christmas decorations put out before it became an exercise in futility and I just gave up and put the Valentine decorations out instead.

… My Christmas cards still refused to address themselves and I couldn’t let a great silly family photo go unseen by 150 of my closest friends and family. Or people who I forgot until they sent me a card and then I had to scramble to send them one.

… I had to keep the tradition alive and get a photo with Santa and the kids even if it meant hitting the strip mall Santa two towns over with his security guard to avoid the long lines at the local mall.

… I was racing from store to store in search of elusive toys requested from Santa. The older the kids, the harder it is to redirect them to what they really want (and what you already bought).

… of Christmas shopping. The closer it gets to Christmas the better those As Seen On TV! junk starts to look like perfect gifts for the ones you love.

… I’m wrapping presents. The first few gifts are festive, glorious works of paper art and ribbon. The rest are lucky to have tape and it scrawled somewhere on it who it’s for with a Sharpie®.

… I’m trying to be the first in line at the post office. If I took into account how much it cost to mail presents to loved ones far away, they’d all be getting feather dusters or sock slippers.

… I was just notified by my children I need to get teacher gifts, bring something for the class Christmas party, a Secret Santa gift, a book for a book exchange, food and unwrapped toy to donate to needy families, and to show up for a last minute go-ahead on a non-denominational school holiday musical they’re performing in.

… I was too busy tipping back liquid courage at holiday parties to get me through the rest of the Christmas season.

… I decided to watch “Home Alone” with the kids and laugh at every weenie hit and fall down a flight of stairs with them.

… we ordered pizza then went for a family drive to look at neighborhood Christmas lights.

… the kids and I had fun in the kitchen making holiday cookies together, then brought them to friends and neighbors.

… we turned on “The Chipmunk Song,” “Nuttin’ For Christmas,” “Grandma Got Run Over By a Reindeer,” and danced and sang until our sides hurt from laughing.

… I gave the kids money and took them “dime store” shopping, getting a kick out of the gifts they selected for loved ones.

… I was busy popping popcorn and watching classic Christmas cartoons with the kids.

… I need to save energy for those “some assembly required” gifts that need to be put together midnight Christmas Eve.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. See you in 2010!

Here are a few of my Holiday Momservations. Enjoy and happy holidays!

• If it can’t be found on eBay, it doesn’t exist.

• Scoring the season’s hottest toy for your kid is the equivalent joy of a child waking up on Christmas to find out they were on the Good List.

• As far as Santa’s concerned, you’ve got to believe to receive.

• Naughty is way more fun than nice, but don’t tell the kids.

• Legitimate kid question (LKQ) - How many wedgies are you allowed to give your sister/brother before Santa slides you to the Naughty List?

• Clothes for Christmas is right up there with lima beans for dinner.

• Letting your kids help with wrap Christmas presents is an exercise in patience but not letting them help would be like kicking a puppy

• If you have toddlers - either put your favorite ornament away for another year or go ahead and throw it on the ground right now and get it over with.

• The perfect Christmas card photo will be snapped the day after Christmas.

• LKQ - What makes a Christmas cookie taste so much better than cookies from the rest of the year?

• There should probably be a limit on pictures you can take for Baby’s First Christmas.

• What family doesn’t have a picture in their photo album of one of their kids in a box with a bow on their head?

• The end of a candy cane fits perfectly up a nostril. This is an important discovery if you’re a toddler.

• LKQ – How come Santa doesn’t just leave socks and underwear for the bad kids?

• There is no better re-gift then when your kid wraps up something from their room in a heartfelt gift to Mom.

• To figure out the odds of keeping a Christmas tree upright and green until Christmas, use this formula: take number of days tree will be standing, divide by number of kids in house, deduct 25% for each cat, subtract five days for each time you forget to put water in the basin, round down to the nearest even number each time the dog marks the tree, and then if you haven’t chucked it yet because it’s filled with ants after putting 7UP in the reservoir for longevity and real candy canes on the branches, make sure there is zero probability anything will be lit around the tree.

• If we’re not all kids on Christmas then we’re missing the big picture.

If you’d like to mix up your Christmas song line-up this year, check out a few of my Mommy Modified Christmas Carols:
http://kellimwheeler.com/uploads/Mommy_Modified_Christmas_Carols.doc

6:45am             Three year old  daughter wakes me up because she can’t find her blankie.  Help her find it in her bed and put her back to sleep.

7:15am             Can’t go back to sleep so I get up, write a freelance article pitch and send it to my editor.

7:40am             Five year old son gets up. Play a quick game of Baby Jesus that is being made up as we go along. Daughter wakes up and joins us.

8:00am             Call doctor help line to see if daughter’s throat swab came back positive for strep throat.  She’s been home all week, really need her to go to preschool so I can get some things done.

8-8:20am         Make breakfast of cereal and toast (yogurt and toast for daughter since throat hurts) while on hold with doctor.  Eat a quick piece of toast and hot chocolate while skimming the headlines and being on hold. Decide to run to the bathroom while still holding. Nurse picks up while I’m on toilet and tells me my daughter has strep throat.

8:22am             Call friend to apologize and warn her that I brought infectious child to dinner last night. Call husband and dad to tell them the “Crackernut” (Nutcracker as mispronounced by my daughter) ballet recital for daughter will still be on tomorrow once I infuse her with antibiotics for 24hrs.

8:30am             Help son find clothes and shoes to wear to preschool. Amazingly daughter gets dressed by herself.

8:40am             Almost forgot to give dog his breakfast so I can hide his antibiotics in it. Run out the door to get son to school before 9am

8:42am             My daughter asks me why I’m still in my pajamas as we drive to preschool. I’m wondering that myself.

8:50am             Drop son off at preschool making sure to keep infectious daughter away from rest of kids.        

9:00am             Daughter decides she wants to make paper chains too since she’s missing it a preschool today. Scrounge up some green and red paper, scissors and glue.

9-9:15am         Show daughter how to make her first paper chain.  Still having trouble with scissors so I get her going until she decides she can do it herself.

9:20am             Start laundry and straightening the house. Having a 3 year old and a 5 year old makes this a daily task.

9:45am             Daughter decides she wants to do workbook now. We clean up art and get out workbook. This too she tells me she can do herself.

10am                Cleaning up breakfast dishes while on hold to find out if daughter’s medication is ready for pick-up.

10:20am           Still on hold, still cleaning. Really have to go to bathroom, against better judgment I go for it. Daughter comes in to show me her excellent work and lady comes on line to tell me the medication is ready. You think I’d learn.         

10:30am           Finally get out of pajamas and put clothes on to go pick up medicine. Decide against doing any hair or make-up.

10:40-11am     Play games of “Hot Potato,” “Engine, Engine Number Nine,” and “Miss Suzy Pattycake” in line to get medicine trying to distract my daughter so she won’t get bored, touch everything and give entire pharmacy strep throat.

11:15am           Daughter is eager to try medicine with lunch. She reminds me not to forget to feed her like I did the day I brought her home early from school sick. I was hoping she’d forget that.

11:30am           Serving up soup and grilled cheese while daughter watches Dora the Explorer. Eat the other half of her grilled cheese figuring she won’t want it. She does. Have to make another.

11:30-11:55am  Squeeze in another load of laundry and finish straightening before going to get son from preschool.

12pm               Go get son from preschool. He wants to know if he has time to play outside at home today or if we have to go run errands. I tell him all errands are off because we have infectious child. Plenty of time to play.

12:15pm           Talk son and daughter into going on “fun” run with me. Son rides his bike and I push very heavy daughter in jogger. Usually I do this while they’re at preschool. Adds five minutes to normal jog route.

12:40pm           As part of deal to get son to agree to go jogging/biking we stop at house down the street that has kitty so he can pet it.

1:05pm             Bribe son and daughter to take a nap so they can stay up later to watch a holiday special on TV.

1:30pm             After long delay of going to bathroom, getting a drink and finally reading a story, kids are allowed to look at books for ten minutes before lights out.

1:32pm             Check email and find out freelance article pitch is rejected. Daughter comes out of room to show me “neat” picture in book.

1:35pm             Try to sit down and read the paper. Keep being interrupted by daughter with more neat pictures.

1:50pm             Time to put the hammer down on the kids to go to sleep. Promise of TV special becomes threat of no TV show without nap. Have to lay down with daughter to get her to be still and go to sleep.

2:00pm             Everyone’s asleep. Go back to computer to respond to editor’s email and others. Make a few edits to developing freelance piece.

2:30pm             Change laundry. Read a quick story in People magazine while using the facilities.

2:40pm             Remember I need to make soup out of leftover turkey bones and meat before it goes bad. Start soup.

2:50pm             Remember I need to take shower because I’m smelling bad.

3:00pm             Come up with idea for Chief of Everything Officer Diary after reviewing normal crazy day in well deserved hot shower.

3:15pm             Once finished with shower routine realize I need to find outfit to wear to cocktail party tonight. Was going to shop for new outfit while kids were at preschool. Oh well, saved money.

3:20-3:45pm    Try on many clothes that are completely outdated and decide to go through my closet and donate things to Goodwill. Find acceptable but not crazy about it outfit to wear to party.            

3:45pm             Daughter wakes up from nap and decompresses in front of favorite cartoon show. I call in-laws to see if they will mercifully still baby sit for infectious child and soon to be infected child.

3:50pm             Try to get a little writing done before son wakes up.

3:59pm             Son wakes up. Wants me to play video games with him. I buy some time while he “warms up” the games.

4:20pm             Play a few games of Ms. Pac man and Gallaga with son.

4:40pm             Continue prepping soup for tomorrow night’s dinner. Decide to go with TV dinners for the kids tonight, being a “special” night and all.

5pm                 Husband still not home to tag team so I can begin getting ready for cocktail party. Decide to fold clothes until he gets home.

5:05pm             Find son hanging from bedroom door “surfing.”

5:10pm             Daughter wants lollipop medicine for her sore throat. Find ants in new bag of lollipop lozenges.

5:11pm             Manage to salvage a few lollipop lozenges so I don’t have to go back to the store. Clean up ants. Find new spot for lozenges.

5:20pm             Son comes out in Buzz Lightyear pajamas saying he’s in his “fighting uniform” and wants to play pretend fight. Play Buzz Lightyear/Hulk/Karate/

Wrestling with son while being cheered on by daughter.

5:35pm             Game is over because my son and I almost knock each other cold when we bonk heads.

5:36pm             My husband finally arrives home. Told him he can have his Buzz Lightyear/Hulk/Karate/

Wrestling game back. Mommy’s not tough enough.

5:37pm             Put clothes in dryer. Separate bones out of turkey broth and put soup in fridge for finishing touches tomorrow.       

5:50pm             Go to throw out the garbage with turkey bones in it so dog won’t get into it, realize the garbage cans need to be brought in. Can’t understand why husband didn’t come to this realization.

6:00pm             Take one last look at cocktail invitation and realize it is light hors d’oeuvres not dinner. Fish some turkey out of soup broth for impromptu turkey sandwiches for husband and me.

6:05pm             Husband overrules TV dinner idea and makes fish sticks for kids instead. He also makes our sandwiches as I realize I need to put together a hostess gift.

6:15pm             Finish creating gift (pre-bought Christmas mugs, with instant hot cocoa mix, baggie of marshmallows and mini Milano cookies wrapped in clear gift bag) and sit down to eat with family.

6:25pm             Get ready for party. Clothes, make-up, hair in record time.

6:55pm             Set up VCR to tape holiday special while kids watch it.

7pm                 Reinforcements arrive and we’re off to party.

7:07-11pm       Enjoyed friends, food and cocktails. Really enjoyed cocktails.

Momservation: If we all parented like Disney runs their theme parks, we wouldn’t need to go to the happiest place on earth – we’d already be there.
    

 
Photo by Logan Wheeler, 10, grumpy son done being in pictures

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Just got back from an impromptu trip to Disney World, and can I please tell you, I’m ready for Disney to take over the world. Nobody, I mean nobody, does customer service and clean, friendly fun like Disney. These are the people we need in charge.

I truly believe if Disney ruled the world we’d all be singing Zippity Do Da out our you-know-whats. Who cares if we were just sent over a proverbial 50 foot waterfall and now have to walk around for hours in wet underwear? Life is good! Just grab a turkey leg and head over to the next attraction!

Instead of casting a wary eye on strangers, we would warmly greet them with, “Have a magical day!” Peace would envelop the world like a big, warm hug from Mickey and be commemorated with a souvenir photo. All our frowns would be turned upside down simply by someone handing us a churro. And all our problems would be solved by someone in a crisp, sharp Disney uniform saying, “How can I make your Disney experience more pleasant?” or “Let me take care of that for you.”

I’ve now been to both Disneyland and Disney World and am absolutely amazed at what a smooth and fantastically positive operation it is. I think there is something to be learned here. In fact, The Walt Disney Company thinks so too and actually has a Disney Institute where businesses can send their employees to become experts in the field of flawless customer service.

I’ve taken it upon myself to take a page from the Disney playbook and apply it to parenting. Below follows a list of ten ways to become a better parent by applying Disney philosophies. Because really, isn’t the bottom line to successful parenting crowd control and an enthusiastic, motivated work force? No…well, it should be.

Tips for Better Parenting Disney Style
By Kelli M. Wheeler
 

1. Customer service rules in the Magic Kingdom. The attitude in which you handle your kids’ problems, worries, fears, desires, questions, curiosity, etc. sets the tone for “customer” loyalty, trust and respect. According to Jim Cunningham of Disney University Professional Development Programs, “The front-line is the bottom line. It's the type of service received that usually determines the decisions customers make.
2. Attention to detail. Be tuned into your children’s daily lives and needs then be prepared to provide a positive, supportive, family friendly atmosphere. Explains Cunningham, "Everyone has certain needs…and certain emotions involved that determine what they do.”
3. Exceed Expectations. Your children look to you as an authority, a leader, a role model, and a moral compass as well as for security, reliability, stability. Make them want to follow in your footsteps and make it easy for them to have a clear example for right and wrong. Make home a good place they want to be.
4. Keep it clean, friendly, and fun. Whether talking about the top three expectations for Disney theme parks or your child’s outside interests parents and Disney are on the same page. To help achieve this goal, encourage your kids to get involved in extracurricular activities that explore their passion while building character, skills, and confidence.
5. Don’t forget about safety, courtesy, show and efficiency. Focusing on the four priorities for “guest” entertainment with Disney detail toward happiness will help your kids transition into safe, likable, self-respecting, and responsible adults.
6. Have a well-trained, enthusiastic and motivated work force. Get those kids excited about doing something productive! Disney believes an important key to keeping employees motivated is having great leaders who create an environment where people want to do their best. So go set a good example, let kids learn by doing, and keep a positive attitude Mom and Dad.
7. Be aggressively friendly. Say it with a smile. Even if you’re telling your kid they aren’t going to see the outside of their room for a week, telling them with a perky smile like they just won the lottery can take the sting out of it.
8. Build loyalty. According to Disney, the easiest way to build customer loyalty is by keeping the promise. Whether that means sticking to your word or sticking to your guns, kids need to know they can trust you and your expectations finding comfort in consistency.
9. Have Plan B waiting in the wings. When a flower, shrub or tree dies in a Disney park, there is one exactly like it already being grown to replace it. Always be ready to swap out what isn’t working.
10. Thrill and delight. Don’t forget to have fun. The easiest way to make your kids happy is to play and interact with them. Why do you think the Disney parks are so much fun? A family that plays together stays together.

Have a magical day!

Momservation: If a Halloween candy falls into my mouth and nobody sees it, do the calories still count?

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Top Ten Uses for B-List Halloween Candy

You’re on your own for trying not to eat all the A-List* candy when the kids aren’t looking

1.      Use Tootsie Rolls® as door stops or ant bait. Really, that’s all they’re good for anyway.

2.      Sprinkle Nerds® on your carpet as a carpet freshener and to make it sound like you’re doing a really good job vacuuming.

3.      Crush up Smarties® and stir it in your coffee as a sugar substitute – as in: it’s still sugar, just a substitute.

4.      Drop SweetTarts® in the toilet to freshen the bowl.

5.      Save Skittles® for Easter, then add vinegar to use as egg dye.

6.      Use all rejected banana flavor LaffyTaffy® as an industrial strength glue. One Halloween can last you a lifetime.

7.      Landscape with Dubble-Bubble® and Bazooka® bubble gum as the new lava rock of the millennium.

8.      String Starburst® as colorful garland for the Christmas tree. See #1 to keep ants away.

9.      Stick lollipops, Dum-Dums®, and Blow-Pops® in planters or flower beds for color until spring arrives.

10.  Save money at the dentist by extracting your own fillings with Dots®, LaffyTaffy®, and Jolly Ranchers®.

* A-List Candy includes anything chocolate related. For best success, make sure you don’t get caught with Snickers® and KitKat® wrappers falling out of your pockets or Reese’s® Peanut Butter Cup breath.